The Quiet After You Decide Isn’t Failure, It’s the Part No One Talks About
Can we talk about the part that happens after you decide you’re starting over?
Not the hype moment.
Not the “this is my year” energy.
The part that comes right after that.
Because if you downloaded the Day One Commitment Guide, felt good about it, and then noticed things went quiet… you’re not doing it wrong. You just hit the part no one prepares you for.
There’s a weird gap between deciding and doing where motivation stops yelling and nothing feels urgent anymore. And instead of feeling grounded, you start questioning yourself.
Like:
Why don’t I feel more driven?
Shouldn’t I be doing more by now?
Did I already lose momentum?
Especially in January, that silence can mess with your head.
We’re conditioned to believe growth should feel intense. That January should feel like a full-on reset. That if you’re not pushing, you’re falling behind.
So when the noise dies down, it’s easy to assume something went wrong.
But most of the time?
Nothing went wrong.
You just stopped running on pressure.
I’m In This Season Too and That’s Why I’m Talking About It
I’m not writing this from a “look how far I’ve come” place.
I’m in it.
I’m not burnt out.
I’m not spiraling.
I’m not chasing something new.
I’m steady and honestly, that took some adjusting.
When you’ve spent years operating from urgency, calm can feel uncomfortable. You start looking for the next thing to fix, optimize, or push toward.
But here’s what I’m learning in real time:
calm doesn’t mean you stopped growing. It means your nervous system finally caught up.
And growth that comes from regulation instead of adrenaline looks quieter. Slower. Less impressive on the outside.
But it actually sticks.
January Isn’t Broken — Our Expectations Are
January gets a bad reputation because we expect too much from it.
We treat it like a performance month. Like if we don’t come out swinging, the year is already lost.
But think about it, your body just came off:
the holidays
emotional labor
financial stress
end-of-year reflection
trying to hold everything together
Of course things feel slower.
That doesn’t mean you’re unmotivated.
It means you’re human.
This month isn’t asking you to reinvent yourself.
It’s asking you to recalibrate.
To take smaller steps.
To let clarity arrive instead of forcing it.
To stop confusing urgency with progress.
That’s not weakness. That’s maturity.
What Episode 33 Is Actually About
Episode 33 of She Rises Through It isn’t a pep talk.
It’s me talking honestly about this exact phase, the middle part no one glamorizes.
I talk about:
what it’s like to live in the in-between without rushing to label it
why calm doesn’t mean you’ve stalled
what “Day One” really looks like when you stop overloading yourself
why January doesn’t need to become a self-improvement bootcamp
This episode isn’t meant to motivate you.
It’s meant to help you stay with yourself when the noise drops.
Because most people don’t quit because they’re lazy.
They quit because they overthink the quiet.
Why Space Is the Missing Piece for So Many Women
Here’s the part I don’t think we talk about enough:
a lot of us don’t need more plans, we need space.
Space where we’re not reacting.
Space where we’re not holding everyone else together.
Space where we can hear ourselves think again.
That’s why I created Rise & Reground: The Costa Rica Experience.
Held in Costa Rica, at Jade Nosara, it’s intentionally slow, intentionally small, and intentionally supportive.
Not to escape your life but to step out of survival mode long enough to return to it differently.
Right now, there are only three rooms left.
Not because of hype, just because this was designed to stay intimate.
You Don’t Need to Decide Anything Yet
If you’re reading this and thinking, “Okay… that makes sense,” that’s enough for today.
You don’t need to rush into a decision.
You don’t need to lock anything in.
Just notice what keeps coming back up for you.
That’s usually where the truth is.
→ Listen to Episode 33 here
→ View the Rise & Reground retreat details here
And if you haven’t done the Day One Commitment Guide yet, start there. It’s simple and helps you ground before deciding anything else.
Becoming with you always,
Cydnie Jocelyn
